How Identity Can Be Protected and Defended
Why defend and for what purpose?
About one and a half year ago, I began fulfilling my purpose by writing. I wanted to let people know they are not alone in sometimes difficult struggles in this world. I wanted to give hope, encouragement, and empowerment to those who were struggling with staying committed and waiting to realize their dreams without losing their personal identity.
Since publishing “Protecting your Identity” last year, it was read by hundreds of people and shared on multiple social media platforms. Within that process, I received what I was well prepared for: both positive and negative reviews.
This is how persons, who are creative, go about day to day activities protecting their identity. Some people asked, what helps me stay committed besides the anticipation of the positive outcomes? How do I protect my personality and identity each day?
When you are recognized by an audience as accomplishing something special, you must be ready and willing to protect and defend your identity. I had a few wonderful people send messages via Facebook letting me know how much “Protecting Your Identity” became a beacon of empowerment for them.
These people go through emotional and psychological pressure to give away their identity every day. The prejudice and discrimination men and women receive can be quite devastating at times. This is why having a plan of action is so important. You should be proactive rather than reactive when you are in battle.
Having a plan, implementing it, and staying consistent, helps to maintain your identity. Social support groups are excellent. They remind you that you are not alone in this battle. However, if you do not have a plan for maintaining positive thinking during your journey, it will become a path of self-destruction. One thing I learned, which helps me a lot, is a practice called positive self-talk.
Positive self-talk is a coping skill which helps maintain positive thinking whenever you are encountering stressful situations. Behavior does not lead to your thoughts; your thoughts lead to your behavior. In order to acquire a consistent wave of positive self-talk, you first must master the reasoning of negative self-talk.
There are two types of negative self-talk:
- Thinking about anything which can motivate and convince you to justify wrong behavior. When you are protecting your identity, you will face attacks designed to challenge your commitment; name-calling, peer pressure, being the brunt of crude jokes and movies. All of these attacks have the ability to cause a festering wound in your spiritual mind. This wound will begin convincing you to strike back in negative ways against those who try to or have harmed you. As negative thinking is allowed to flow in and not flow out, your behaviors may become unhealthy. For example, aggressive communication which leads to power struggles or negatively labeling others and perceiving self as perfect. When you do this and begin labeling those who have the right to their choice, you become no better than the ones attacking you.
- Then there is the type which can make you feel worthless and develop low self-esteem and decreased confidence. Worthlessness + low self-esteem + decreased confidence = putting your purity in danger.
When you are attacked, if you do not cope with the negative input, you are headed towards possibly breaking your identity. This can be due to overwhelming pressure from friends, enemies, or even the people you are working with. This pressure is designed to break your personality based on you feeling bad or sorry for yourself due to your decisions.
If your partners no longer respect your identity, let them go! Yes, some will attempt to attack you emotionally with name-calling and other methods. I received plenty. However, you must not let them drive you into negative self-talk to the point where you start considering yourself worthless.
I have been there, it made me question whether I was being a real woman or not. I realized I was in negative self-talk: questioning my confidence and strength. I had to find a way to make sure those negative attacks flowed out of my system.